Hide. Run. Bury. Welcome to the 21 st century’s default approach to failure. Sure, we enshrine motivational mottos like “Fail fast, fail often, ” but moving those feelings into our nerves is anything but easy.
Pride bird-dogs us. Ego complains. And the suffering of letdown — not to mention the pain of embarrassment — can be overwhelming. While a few brave spirits confide their losses resulting from trusted friends, the one thing we never do is share our failings to be recorded and watched in perpetuity.
Maybe we should.
Long-term success comes from espousing our failures , not denying them. And “the worlds biggest” the stage, the better the espouse. As proof, here are 11 TEDx Talks — “x” meaning independently coordinated, so there’s a good chance you haven’t seen them yet — to help you transform your failures.
1. Why you should let your panics guide you
From homeless and suicidal to an internationally recognized branding expert, Leonard Kim’s 2017 presentation at UC Irvine doesn’t shy away from the dark side of failure. The twist, however, isn’t so much about being led into the sun. Instead, it’s about the positive role fear can in those moments of darkness as well as life itself.
“It was then I decided to end everything there is. I wrote a letter and said goodbye, but was too scared to send it to my grandmother, and too scared to send it to my momma; so I mailed it to my former girlfriend, and surprisingly, that letter was the thing that changed my life.”
2. Risk you!
Far from a listless 20 -something, Isvari Mohan has more attainments than people twice her age. She’s a graduate of Georgetown Law, former columnist at the Boston Globe, and written novelist. And yet, in opposition to hard-and-fast schemes about who you want to be, Isvari’s “Risk You! ” is a love letter to embrace experimentation, changing fervours, and the unknown.
“Risk is hope we’re acting on now. It’s not the payoff that makes us happy. It’s not what we’re going to get at the end. It’s the risk. It’s the hope that maybe there’ll be a payoff and the adrenaline that maybe we’re gonna fail.”
3. Upwardly mobile
Diagnosed with a rare form of dwarfism at two years old, Brandon Farbstein’s 3’ 8” stature is only a small part of his tale. As a teenager, Brandon’s doctor recommended he begin using a wheelchair or scooter. “I didn’t want to spend the rest of my life, ” recollects Brandon, “having to constantly look up at people. Well, more than I have to already.” So instead, he turned to social media where he found not only the funds to intend his own mobility machine, but a calling that would shape his personal and professional future.
“Don’t let other people, even a medical doctor, dictate the experience you’re going to have. Take the advice this is necessary, then have the courage to innovate your own solution.”
4. Why I read a book a period( and why you should too)
“It’s good to learn from your mistakes, ” said Warren Buffett, “it’s better to learn from other people’s mistakes.” Tai Lopez incarnates both of those principles. Mixing his own failures with hard-won lessons from others, Tai majors on shortcutting life’s the reading curve by the investment in mentors, whether in person or on a page.
“I wrote a letter to the smartest person I could think of, my granddad, and I was like,’ Will you tell me how to design my life? ’ Three days later, I got the present letter back,’ Sorry, Tai, I can’t help you. The modern world is too complicated. You will never find all the answers from only person or persons. If you’re lucky a handful of people along the way will point the way.’ So much for my shortcut, but seven days later a package came. It was books.”
5. Are you biased? I am.
As the Global Head of Human Resources for Roche Diagnostics in Switzerland, Kristen Pressner is the last person you’d expect to harbor prejudice. It turns out, that unlikeness is what attains Kristen’s admission — an “unconscious bias” that ladies make better supporters than providers — so raw and impactful. Furthermore, her integrity gives a way forward for others fight with the same hurdles.
“I have a bias against women leaders. I have a bias against myself.”
6. The golden age of social entrepreneurship
Don’t let this talk’s name or introduction clown you. While Manu Goswami — an immigrant from Singapore and one of Canada’s Top 20 Under 20 — excavations deep into the future of social entrepreneurship, the heart of his message centers on the fight of being singled out as “different.” Citing a lifelong speech obstacle, Manu’s story highlights the power of rejection, empathy, and getting back up.
“In no way do I deem myself an anomaly or an exception to the rule. I am the rule.”
7. Why smart is messed up
Most people wouldn’t turn to a high schooler for child care recommendations. But, then again, Noa Mintz isn’t your typical high schooler. The teenage founder of Nannies By Noa — now one of New York’s largest child care placement bureaux — retraces her atypical roots back to a pivotal conversation that redefined the implications of “smart.” Rather than look to traditional sources like grades and popularity, Noa received it in the very place the majority of members of us would never think to look.
“The principle of my secondary school assured the potential I had before I even appreciated it. One day he said to me,’ Fail forward.’ I was so desperate for advice I took it, and it stuck with me.”
8. Borderline millennial disorder
Next to suicide or physical maladies, struggling with social media can sound trite. But Ryan Foland, an international speaker and communication strategist, found that his difficulty connecting online represented something larger. Ryan’s passion for sharing his insights was hindered by minimal experience with the technology most Millennials navigate natively. His solution deftly mingles humor with practical steps for overcoming that disconnect.
“Some periods I feel like a Gen X and some periods like a Millennial, so I did some soul searching and searching online, and it turns out I have borderline millennial disorder.”
9. Reprogramming your brain to overcome fear
Is it possible to change your brain’s fundamental response to fear? CEO of OL Consulting, rocket scientist, and “modern-day’ Hidden Figure, ’” Olympia LePoint, says yes. How? It starts with naming your dreads, developing your brain to “flip” them — i.e ., to replace negative self-talk with positive — and then rebuilding your brain’s neurological pathways by taking action in direct opposition.
“The truth is this: if we do not have a behavior to reprogram our thinkers to overcome dread, we will never be successful at our own missions in life.”
10. Stoic optimism
From a uprising under Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius to a flame that destroyed the majority of members of Thomas Edison’s factory, history’s most significant achievers have all faced equally significant obstacles. And that’s profoundly good news. Why? Because as Ryan Holiday points outs in case after instance after instance, life isn’t defined by what happens to us, but by how we respond.
“What blocked your path is now the path. What once obstructed activity, advances action. The obstacle is the way.”
11. 100 days without fear
What do spiders, stand-up comedy, and discontinuing your work all have in common? They’re merely three of the 100 panics Michelle Poler decided to face in her excursion to understand anxiety itself. In addition to unearthing seven core fears behind the rest, Michelle’s final takeaway is perhaps the most powerful we’ve watched in so far … and the perfect note to end on.
“After facing 100 panics , not even one time was the actual challenge worse than what I had in my brain before. So WTF are we so afraid of? ”
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